5 powerful ways to keep growing when you can’t find a spiritual mentor

I’ve written about how to find a spiritual mentor, but one thing is for sure: it’s not an instant process. It can sometimes take a while to find the right person–or for the right person to find you. If you’ve not yet found a spiritual mentor, take heart! Don’t forget these five ways to continue to grow as you pray and think about who might be a good mentor.

1) Value one-off conversations

You may not be able to have an ongoing arrangement, but don’t forget the value of asking someone you respect in the faith to lunch every now and then. Perhaps you can make a habit of asking one person from whom you know you can learn to coffee once a week. Then remember to do more listening than talking.

2) Find mentors in books

I consider C. S. Lewis a spiritual mentor, even though he died long before I was born. I’ve read almost everything he’s written on Christianity and he is an author I return to frequently for reference when I come up on a theological problem. Tim Keller and N. T. Wright have also become mentors for me this way. Find a solid author that resonates with you, and begin to read all of their work.

3) Create a life plan

Creating a life plan is an essential way to sharpen your focus and gain clarity on how to move forward in life. There are plenty of the self-guided programs out there; I recommend Storyline by Donald Miller. Going through Don’s process will take you a few weeks, but the time investment will pay off. You’ll begin to better understand what’s really important in your life and the areas that you need to be mentored in.

4) Find someone you can mentor

Everyone needs a mentor and to be mentored, depending on the season of their life. Consider whether it might actually be the time for you to reach out and find someone to invest in. As I’ve made mentoring others an integral part of my life, I’ve experienced tremendous personal and spiritual growth.

5) Continue your education

Enroll in classes online or at a local college that will benefit you spiritually. Consider church history, systematic theology, or even a class in spiritual formation. Read blogs and listen to podcasts that will help think through spiritual issues and gain biblical knowledge.

How have you continued to make spiritual growth a priority while you look for a mentor?

10 thoughts on “5 powerful ways to keep growing when you can’t find a spiritual mentor

  1. Great tips for getting through that time without a mentor 🙂 I needed this reminder because it can be tough finding the person that you can trust to help you grow.

  2. Thanks for the tips. Sometimes it happens that you are in the situation that needs patience to trust only to God and everything will be fine. While waiting for a solution to storm you’re living, reading the Bible and focusing on prays will help and you ain’t leaving the ship.

      1. No, I don’t have a mentor. I’ve searched for a mentor since last autumn, but I couldn’t find anyone to trust. This is why I rely on God and wait.

        1. It sounds like you are doing the right thing! Don’t forget the power of social networks too. I have kept up with mentors and found people that have functioned as mentors via Facebook groups, etc. This can be a good option when we have limited options in the face-to-face world.

    1. I’m glad you found these helpful Joe! It’s often been challenging for me to find a mentor. Do you have a mentor now? What has been the biggest challenge for you in finding one?

      1. Yes I do and I have been blessed to be one myself. I guess the hard thing is finding someone mature in the word and consistent and disciplined. Keep up,the good work

        1. I’m so glad to hear that you have a mentor and are being mentored! The great thing is that as mentors, we are hopefully developing more people that will be great mentors in the future.

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